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How can you benefit from this reflection exercise?

How can others benefit from your learnings?

Timing: 15’

By now you have an idea of which are your personal inner drivers, that lead to a certain behaviour. You also got an idea of how to identify inner drivers within your team – which will help you to have deep and impactful employee coaching conversations. Overall, this will make you more successful, effective and meaningful.

Every driver can be positively influenced with the respective “enabler” – it’s the antidote which will help keeping the positive effects, but decrease the negative effects in your daily life. Check your highest inner drivers and explore the “enablers” to prepare for the next task.

TEST OF DRIVERS – core beliefs and “enablers”

BE PERFECT

Core belief: “I have to do everything even better; it’s never good enough.”

Enabler: “I can make mistakes and learn from them. Sometimes 90% can be enough.”

HURRY UP

Core belief: “I have to be quick or I won’t get it done.”

Enabler: “I can take my time and take breaks too. Some things are allowed to take longer.”

TRY HARD

Core beliefs: “I must always push myself, whatever I’m doing.”

“Life is hard.”

“No pain, no gain.”

Enabler: “I can do things in a relaxed, enjoyable and easy way. I allow myself to pause from time to time and acknowledge my achievements. “

PLEASE EVERYONE

Core belief: “I’m only of value if everyone is satisfied with me. If I say ‘no’, I’ll be rejected.”

Enabler: “I can take my needs and interests into consideration. I’m OK even if someone is unhappy with me. I can do what’s right for me too.”

BE STRONG

Core belief: “I can’t let anyone notice that I’m weak, sensitive or at a loss. You shouldn’t show your emotions. Emotions are a sign of weakness and make you vulnerable. That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

Enabler: “I can be open to attention. It’s OK to ask for help and accept it. Showing your feelings is allowed and is a sign of strength.”

Timing: 30’

Pick your learning partner and have mutual coaching session!

1. What are your main inner drivers? How do they show in business and private life? On a scale from 1-10 – how much stress do they create in these situations?
2. What may have been of benefit in the past (and maybe still)? Like supporting side-effects and providing strengths?
3. Acknowledge and transform inner drivers
   • Pick the one, that stresses you most
   • How will you change your future behaviour (do things or let go of things) and be at least as much effective as I was before?
   • How can I make sure, that the positive effects will be kept?
4. Changes always come with a price to pay and possible side effects. Which reactions or response you may notice in your environment? How can you prepare for this and deal with it in a constructive manner? Are you willing to pay the price?
5. What are you going to do next and when? Define concrete actiosn and challenge each other! Don’t put the bar too high. Small steps and continuous monitoring will lead to long term success.

What was your most important take away from the session about inner drivers?